John William Waterhouse, Studies
"My boyfriend/girlfriend won’t let me"
What was that?
How lovely congratulations on your 3rd parental guardian”
In some relationships, especially those that are emotionally abusive, you can so thoroughly internalize your partner’s displeasure/disapproval that it literally feels like you can’t do something if they don’t want you to. When I was with my ex-boyfriend, I was regularly guilty of using the phrase “My boyfriend won’t let me.” Now that I am in a healthy relationship, I am bewildered by that. He was not physically abusive, and we carried on a semi-long distance relationship during the week. Why did I ever believe he could control where I went/who I hung out with/what I did, and why did I let him? It’s really the power of an unhealthy relationship.
OK Highway Patrol Captain George Brown says the best “tip” for women to not get raped by a cop is to “follow the law in the first place so you don’t get pulled over.”
http://youtu.be/BO8g8akPWcY (Last third of the video).
Three serial rapists in 3 weeks arrested in Oklahoma, all cops.
Pro tip: if you’re signaled to pull over (whether you’re male or female) and you’re in a place that has no witnesses, turn your hazard lights on to acknowledge the officer’s siren, and drive to the nearest gas station or populated area. This is accepted protocol by every agency. You are not obligated pull over until you can do so safely. This includes personal safety. Understand your rights, brothers and sisters. There are disgusting examples of authority in this world.
ALSO! Call 911/non-emergency sheriff’s line before you open your door or window. A cop has to immediately call in when he’s pulling a vehicle over so the dispatcher can tell you if it’s legit.